Life before having children and after having children are completely different. Once you have children, they will occupy most of your time- err…actually all your time. Its like you have gone into another world. Have you ever noticed that what you do or what you say are 95% about your children or related topics? Still I can say that among all those infinite work, chaos, tantrums and moodswings every parent enjoys being a parent because anything is cute when it comes to kids. When you have kids, you start to say or do silly things you never imagined you would do. Like ‘M1 just pooped’ – this was one of my recent text message to N while he was having a pretty busy work day. I am sure it made him smile even he was extremely busy working to meet an upcoming deadline. The reason is our little ones have trouble with bowel movements these days. So M&M having bowel movements made ‘headines’ in our home!
We tried almost everything with them. Its been there for several days- even weeks; this problem of constipation. I am not sure if I can call this constipation since sometimes their stool was not that dry. Even more, we have enriched their diet with whatever we can to ease with constipation – fluids, prunes, apricots, grains, leafy veggies (M2 dont like veggies though:( , grapes, juices, oats….actually some other kid would have diarrhea with this kind of diet!!! Anyway its not coming easy for them to pass it despite what we give. I greatly suspect the culprit is that they are not potty trained yet. If so, I am feeling guilty. Guilty not because I haven’t tried them to potty train. In reality, I have tried many ways. M1 once started peeing in potty everytime, then she reversed partially because M2 was not doing it. I am just guilty simply because of the thought that if somehow they were potty trained, they wouldnt have to go through these sufferings. At the same time, I know there is no point in forcing it which would only make it worse. Ironically, they got constipation in the past when they were in potty training because they didnt like it.
They are intelligent kids, we have realized that already. They learn everything so quickly; just need one time observation. But when it comes to potty, they just wouldn’t do it. They just stand and try to poop so what happens is its actually against the natural way and block it. Bribing, explaining, mimicking…..all those ways haven’t helped much not atleast for a long time. Recently they have again started sitting for short periods with their favorite rhymes in my lappie infront of them. We think once they start to like it, we can make modifications to this setting. My parents and others in our home country didnt have this much trouble since when we were small, nobody used diapers. So it was straight transition from ‘anywhere to potty’. Its still that way in most places. It could be that way also because the floors are not carpeted but its tiles, marble, mosaic or granite- all easy to clean in case of accidents. Good for kids even though lot of work for parents.
I just don’t know what to do with their constipation at this point. It happened before when we visited our home country. After coming back to US, they were quite good for a long time. So we thought it would be weather change, adjustment to a new environment blah blah…Now what happened?? They are suffering a lot. My heart aches when I see their red faces and loud cries. In my opinion, kids shouldnt have to suffer this much. God should have made kids under 5yrs such that they dont get sick or dont have to suffer because of an illness. Everything should have been easy for small children. They are the most innocent ones………
For M&M, its pretty bad that we have had to apply suppositors a few times and have used Miralax. I cannot digest the idea of using suppositors for going-to-be 3yr old kids and dont like to continue Miralax for more than 1 week at a time. (it didnt seem to work well either) Bowel movements should be natural and regular (once or even twice in a day would be ideal). I think other negative factors in their case are that they dont like water. They take fluids having color! So we compensate by giving milk and juice by diluting it with more water and try to stay on some liquid diet especially when their constipation is bad. This past weeks it was like that except when we had a long trip day before. They got one day of freedom from their strict diet. They have a improved a little now, but we cant be sure if it will be back to normal. We dont think its their diet still we are cautious on what they eat with the hope that it will make things simple for their little tummies. Couple of months ago, their ped suggested prunes, fluids, Miralax, suppositor etc. I was almost near to calling their ped this time unless they showed improvement. I am holding to it also because we have started giving them a popular herbal medicine from our country and it seemed to work a little bit. It will be far better than Miralax or similar medicines anyway because herbal medicines don’t have side effects.
I just wish they drink more water, go to potty,eat more veggies…. I just pray that their little tummies be fine soon…..
Have anyone gone through this kind of constipation with your kids? Do you think weather change can contribute because we have noticed that they get this more in hot weather (may be because fluid req is more). Also, how much do you think older kids who still use diapers and trying to poop in standing positions have chances of getting constipation? Any other foods I should try? Suggestions and opinions are welcome…